Constructive Criticism

FULL DISCLOSURE: I find it very difficult to graciously receive constructive criticism. If it’s in passing, I can usually be gracious (i.e., fake composure for the moment, then go fall apart later when I’m alone). I have a real problem with perfectionism, and I think that’s the core issue with me being able to receive criticism. If I’m honest? I’m afraid that if one weakness is exposed, then they will all come to light and I’ll be seen as a failure and a fraud by people I respect.

In CPE, you’re either sitting on a couch or in a circle while receiving constructive criticism for about 45 minutes at least once a week. Well, there’s no time for fake composure and falling apart later in that situation. I full out fall apart in front of everyone. I get frustrated and defensive and I cry. I feel worthless and shameful. It’s a MESS.

And I don’t like it. So I’ve been doing some inner work and some research on how to deal with constructive criticism in a way that feels healthier for me. I created this flow sheet today to remind me of what I think I need to do to stay emotionally and spiritually healthy when I’m receiving feedback. Maybe it will be helpful for you.